An Interview with Dr. Tasha Holland-Kornegay: Margaret’s Box

Feb 27, 2018 by

Michael F. Shaughnessy –

  1. First of all, can you tell us a bit about your education and experience?

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. I have earned my Bachelors in Sociology from the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, Master’s Degree in Sociology from N.C. Central University, and Doctorate in Human Services with a concentration in Family Intervention Strategies from Walden University. I’ve worked in the field of servicing people and communities for over 20 years.

2) Now, what exactly is “Margaret’s Box”?

Margaret’s Box plays off the idea of vision board. The exterior of the Margaret’s Box serves as the canvas, allowing participants to draw their inspiration, their passion, their goals, and ideas. The interior goodies include supplies needed to create a goal-oriented vision box (i.e., markers, glue, scissors, etc.). The Box also includes a therapeutic curriculum that I developed, to help guide the participants to their place of accomplishment. Margaret’s Box was inspired by Wonderful Grandmother (Margaret). My Grandmother played a HUGE roll in my life.

3) Now, it seems that for some people goals and objectives are important, and others ignore goals and objectives. Why do we have this dichotomy?

There could be a dozen answers here. But what I’ve come to find is that these people who ignore goals, and objectives, often lack motivation as well as direction. When I designed Margaret’s Box, I had this group in mind. And for those that are already fired up, and ready to go, this box is a complement.

4) In the workplace–it seems that the goals and objectives of management are highly unreasonable and unrealistic – what is the average person to do?

The perfect opportunity to discuss goals, and objectives are during reviews, or earlier if necessary. It would be beneficial if the employee is able to articulate his/her concerns from a team-oriented manner. Being prepared with facts versus emotions during these discussions work best.

5) It seems (at least to me) that interpersonal relations are becoming, well, more IMPERSONAL and stressful. How does the average person cope with this?

You’re right! We live in such a fast-paced world, some of us may not notice this change. We all seem to be plugged in (i.e., devices) which can feel impersonal. Be sure to make it a priority to unplug, and meet as much as possible with friends and love ones face to face on a regular basis. We are designed for personal contact.

6) Some people are really stuck in a job that has become increasingly stressful. I am thinking here of teachers in specific. What do you say to a teacher who has put in say, 15-16 years- and is nearing retirement?

Do your best to “Throw your stress away”! Write down the things that you believe causes you stress. Then throw that paper away. Doing this has been shown to clear your mind! I call it throw that stress in the garbage. You’re almost at the stress less finish line!

7) I text, I e-mail, I Skype, and yet at the end of the day don’t feel much is accomplished. What am I doing wrong?

Sounds like a full day. There’s a saying, you can’t pour from an empty cup. My all time favorite tip is: “Just say no”, when its appropriate. These to little letters, N&O are hard to say, but sometimes you need to say them to keep from feeling overwhelmed or stressed.

It also shows you are aware of your needs, and how take care of yourself. Schedule 10-15 minutes of “me time”. Mediation is a wonderful technique to fit in, even on our busiest days. You can do this from your desk. It allows you take a break and recharge.

If you are putting out more than you can handle, you will feel defeated, and unaccomplished. Taking breaks during the day, will allow you that time to process your daily task. Overworking yourself can become stressful, so be sure to utilize vacation and sick days as well.

8) A generalization- but at the end of the day, the vast majority of people simply want to unwind and relax- yet there is shopping, laundry, and cleaning to do. What’s a mother, wife, or even husband to do?

We all want it, more time. You will not feel as busy or overwhelmed, if you implement a little more planning. For example on Sundays, I pick out my work outfits for the week. Planning helps you take back control of your days.

9) Many individuals deal and attempt to cope with people who are NOT clear thinkers- they are driven by feelings and emotions and irrational, illogical, unrealistic, unreasonable motives. What is a “clear-headed person” to do with these other inDUHviduals?

Well, at one point, we have all been one of these people. While it’s hard to control others, you have control over yourself.

Here’s a fun tip when you’re in one of these moments: use the power of pausing before responding.

10) What have I neglected to ask?

I think we covered a good amount of ground here. But if you missed anything, you can find me here:

https://www.tashaguru.com/

https://www.facebook.com/tashaguru/

https://twitter.com/tasha_guru

https://www.instagram.com/tasha_guru/

tasha@tashaguru.com

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