Sex ‘normal at 13’ suggestion raises concerns

Nov 5, 2014 by

Schools in England are being offered guidance that suggests having consensual sex with a peer at age 13 is normal behaviour, it has been claimed.

Sarah Carter, of the Family Education Trust, told a committee of MPs that some of what was taught in sex and relationship lessons was not lawful.

Her concerns centre on a “Traffic Light Tool” for 13- to 17-year-olds from sexual health and advice service Brook.

The issue was raised in a sitting of the Commons Education Select Committee.

Giving evidence to the committee on Tuesday, Ms Carter said that Brook’s tool “states that young people who are consensually sexually active from the age of 13, this is normal behaviour and development, whereas actually the law states that young person should wait until they are 16 at least, never mind if they are ready or not”.

“That’s awfully unlawful behaviour, and so quite often what’s taught in SRE isn’t always lawful.”

The supplementary guidance on sex and relationships education (SRE), which contained links to a number of resources that could be used by schools, including the Traffic Light Tool, was developed and published by the Personal, Social and Health Education (PSHE) Association with Brook and the Sex Education Forum.

Also appearing before the Education Select Committee, Joe Hayman, chief executive of the PSHE Association, said: “I think the only challenge with dealing with these subjects – and this is why we need really well-trained teachers – is that we’ve got to deal with children’s realities.”


Committee chairman Graham Stuart told Mr Hayman that critics might argue with sending out messages that 13-year-olds having sex together was part of growing up and “not to send out a message that it’s wrong, that it’s harmful, it’s dangerous, is in fact to almost to collude with something which we know is damaging to young people”.

Mr Hayman said: “What I was saying was that it’s really, really important that a dictatorial-from-the-front lesson on what one should and shouldn’t do is less likely to have an impact and I think we’ve got to start from where children are, their reality.

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“There’s no-one in our community who feels we should be trying to sexualise children, or any of those kinds of things.

“What we want is children to develop healthy and safe relationships and it’s really important that teachers are provided with the necessary training in order to do that.”

He said all the resources produced by the PSHE Association were clear about teaching about the law.

Questioned further about Brook’s Traffic Light Tool, Mr Hayman insisted it was difficult for him to be accountable for every piece of information linked to in the PSHE Association’s supplementary guidance, which has many links within it.

He agreed to write to the committee further on the matter.

Traffic Light Tool

Brook’s Traffic Light Tool on sexual behaviours, which is available online, is meant to help professionals assess whether children and young people’s sexual behaviours are healthy or unhealthy.

It sets out green, amber and red “behaviours” for different age groups.

Under the 13-17 age group, it lists a number of green behaviours, which are described as reflecting “safe and healthy sexual development” and “reflective of natural curiosity, experimentation, consensual activities and positive choices”.

The list includes:

  • having sexual or non-sexual relationships
  • sexual activity including hugging, kissing, holding hands
  • consenting penetrative or oral sex with others of the same or opposite gender who are of similar age and developmental ability
  • choosing not to be sexually active

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