You Have to Read This Letter: A New York father pulls his daughter out of Brearley with a message to the whole school. Is the dam starting to break?

Apr 18, 2021 by

4.19.21 – Common Sense with Bari Weiss

“You Have to Read This Letter: A New York father pulls his daughter out of Brearley with a message to the whole school. Is the dam starting to break?”

By Bari Weiss

Excerpts from this article:

If you don’t know about Brearley, it’s a private all-girls school on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. It costs $54,000 a year and prospective families apparently have to take an “anti-racism pledge” to be considered for admission…

Gutmann chose to pull his daughter, who has been in the school since kindergarten, and sent this missive to all 600 or so families in the school earlier this week.


April 13, 2021 

Dear Fellow Brearley Parents, 

Our family recently made the decision not to reenroll our daughter at Brearley for the 2021-22 school year. She has been at Brearley for seven years, beginning in kindergarten. In short, we no longer believe that Brearley’s administration and Board of Trustees have any of our children’s best interests at heart. Moreover, we no longer have confidence that our daughter will receive the quality of education necessary to further her development into a critically thinking, responsible, enlightened, and civic minded adult. I write to you, as a fellow parent, to share our reasons for leaving the Brearley community but also to urge you to act before the damage to the school, to its community, and to your own child’s education is irreparable. 

It cannot be stated strongly enough that Brearley’s obsession with race must stop. It should be abundantly clear to any thinking parent that Brearley has completely lost its way. The administration and the Board of Trustees have displayed a cowardly and appalling lack of leadership by appeasing an anti-intellectual, illiberal mob, and then allowing the school to be captured by that same mob. What follows are my own personal views on Brearley’s antiracism initiatives, but these are just a handful of the criticisms that I know other parents have expressed. 

I object to the view that I should be judged by the color of my skin. I cannot tolerate a school that not only judges my daughter by the color of her skin, but encourages and instructs her to prejudge others by theirs. By viewing every element of education, every aspect of history, and every facet of society through the lens of skin color and race, we are desecrating the legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and utterly violating the movement for which such civil rights leaders believed, fought, and died. 

I object to the charge of systemic racism in this country, and at our school. Systemic racism, properly understood, is segregated schools and separate lunch counters. It is the interning of Japanese and the exterminating of Jews. Systemic racism is unequivocally not a small number of isolated incidences over a period of decades. Ask any girl, of any race, if they have ever experienced insults from friends, have ever felt slighted by teachers or have ever suffered the occasional injustice from a school at which they have spent up to 13 years of their life, and you are bound to hear grievances, some petty, some not. We have not had systemic racism against Blacks in this country since the civil rights reforms of the 1960s, a period of more than 50 years. To state otherwise is a flat-out misrepresentation of our country’s history and adds no understanding to any of today’s societal issues. If anything, longstanding and widespread policies such as affirmative action, point in precisely the opposite direction. 

I object to a definition of systemic racism, apparently supported by Brearley, that any educational, professional, or societal outcome where Blacks are underrepresented is prima facie evidence of the aforementioned systemic racism, or of white supremacy and oppression. Facile and unsupported beliefs such as these are the polar opposite to the intellectual and scientific truth for which Brearley claims to stand. Furthermore, I call bullshit on Brearley’s oft-stated assertion that the school welcomes and encourages the truly difficult and uncomfortable conversations regarding race and the roots of racial discrepancies. 

I object to the idea that Blacks are unable to succeed in this country without aid from government or from whites. Brearley, by adopting critical race theory [Critical Race Theory], is advocating the abhorrent viewpoint that Blacks should forever be regarded as helpless victims, and are incapable of success regardless of their skills, talents, or hard work. What Brearley is teaching our children is precisely the true and correct definition of racism. 

I object to mandatory anti-racism training for parents, especially when presented by the rent-seeking charlatans of Pollyanna. These sessions, in both their content and delivery, are so sophomoric and simplistic, so unsophisticated and inane, that I would be embarrassed if they were taught to Brearley kindergarteners. They are an insult to parents and unbecoming of any educational institution, let alone one of Brearley’s caliber. 

I object to Brearley’s vacuous, inappropriate, and fanatical use of words such as “equity,” “diversity” and “inclusiveness.” If Brearley’s administration was truly concerned about so-called “equity,” it would be discussing the cessation of admissions preferences for legacies, siblings, and those families with especially deep pockets. If the administration was genuinely serious about “diversity,” it would not insist on the indoctrination of its students, and their families, to a single mindset, most reminiscent of the Chinese Cultural Revolution. Instead, the school would foster an environment of intellectual openness and freedom of thought. And if Brearley really cared about “inclusiveness,” the school would return to the concepts encapsulated in the motto “One Brearley,” instead of teaching the extraordinarily divisive idea that there are only, and always, two groups in this country: victims and oppressors. 

l object to Brearley’s advocacy for groups and movements such as Black Lives Matter, a Marxist, anti family, heterophobic, anti-Asian and anti-Semitic organization that neither speaks for the majority of the Black community in this country, nor in any way, shape or form, represents their best interests. 

I object to, as we have been told time and time again over the past year, that the school’s first priority is the safety of our children. For goodness sake, Brearley is a school, not a hospital! The number one priority of a school has always been, and always will be, education. Brearley’s misguided priorities [e.g., CDC COVID-19 Guidelines] exemplify both the safety culture and “cover-your-ass” culture that together have proved so toxic to our society and have so damaged the mental health and resiliency of two generations of children, and counting. 

I object to the gutting of the history, civics, and classical literature curriculums. I object to the censorship of books that have been taught for generations because they contain dated language potentially offensive to the thin-skinned and hypersensitive (something that has already happened in my daughter’s 4th grade class). I object to the lowering of standards for the admission of students and for the hiring of teachers. I object to the erosion of rigor in classwork and the escalation of grade inflation. Any parent with eyes open can foresee these inevitabilities should antiracism initiatives be allowed to persist. 

We have today in our country, from both political parties, and at all levels of government, the most unwise and unvirtuous leaders in our nation’s history. Schools like Brearley are supposed to be the training grounds for those leaders. Our nation will not survive a generation of leadership even more poorly educated than we have now, nor will we survive a generation of students taught to hate its own country and despise its history. 

Lastly, I object, with as strong a sentiment as possible, that Brearley has begun to teach what to think, instead of how to think. I object that the school is now fostering an environment where our daughters, and our daughters’ teachers, are afraid to speak their minds in class for fear of “consequences.” I object that Brearley is trying to usurp the role of parents in teaching morality, and bullying parents to adopt that false morality at home. I object that Brearley is fostering a divisive community where families of different races, which until recently were part of the same community, are now segregated into twoThese are the reasons why we can no longer send our daughter to Brearley. 

Over the past several months, I have personally spoken to many Brearley parents as well as parents of children at peer institutions. It is abundantly clear that the majority of parents believe that Brearley’s antiracism policies are misguided, divisive, counterproductive and cancerous. Many believe, as I do, that these policies will ultimately destroy what was until recently, a wonderful educational institution. But as I am sure will come as no surprise to you, given the insidious cancel culture that has of late permeated our society, most parents are too fearful to speak up. 

But speak up you must. There is strength in numbers and I assure you, the numbers are there. Contact the administration and the Board of Trustees and demand an end to the destructive and anti-intellectual claptrap known as antiracism. And if changes are not forthcoming then demand new leadership. For the sake of our community, our city, our country and most of all, our children, silence is no longer an option. 


Andrew Gutmann

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  1. Elizabeth Alvarez

    This is very sad and an illustration of how far Marxism has infiltrated the education system. My late mother was a career teacher and taught for 3 decades at a junior high school in St. Charles, MO, during some of the toughest years, the ’60s and ’70s, when there was a lot of unrest. Mom said that she always treated every kid the same. Sometimes you like some kids better than others, but you always treat them the same. During the early ’70s, she had a female student who was really wrapped up in the “Black power” stuff. I heard a few stories about how sullen and angry this girl was, but, again, Mom said, you treat every student the same because they are there to learn. Decades later, my Mom was in a grocery store and a middle-aged black woman rushed up to her and said, “Mrs. Cruce, do you remember me?” (Mom used to get that quite often around town.) Well, it turns out this was the angry junior high student all grown up. She told my Mom that she was her favorite teacher and had become an English teacher because of her! They stood there in the store catching up, talking shop, and sharing stories of how teaching had changed over the years. My Mom called me that night and was so excited to tell me this story. These people who want to treat kids differently and pit them against each other have it all wrong. I am glad this father is resisting, and I hope more parents do.

  2. Joe Quicquaro

    So true! Do we dare forward this letter to our liberal sons and daughters in hopes that they will understand and protect our grandchildren? I did!

  3. Carol Adelsperger

    For the past several decades, civil right leaders have engaged in something called “gaslighting”, defined as ways of eroding other’s self confidence, making them easier to control. A classic example told to Black youth is: “You poor thing. You have been so abused that of course, we can’t expect anything better from you.” This is quite a kick in the head. And you know who has been doing this? Answer: Black leaders and white ultra liberals. With friends like that who needs enemies?

  4. Trudy Ramsey


  5. David

    We left our private school over the same exact reasons stated in this letter. They gave up $17K a year and could care less. They don’t even bother to ask why you are leaving. Maybe they know. Seems odd for a school constantly complaining of low attendance and constantly asking for donations. Homeschool is working out great and we’re saving lots of money we were planning on spending for private school tuition.

  6. Johnny Kaiser

    Outstanding!! We need this across all of our school systems in this country. Would be great if it permeated into the colleges and universities as well!

  7. Lisa

    I will say that one silver lining to the kids being taught online at home is some of the junk that they are teaching the kids. And maybe wouldn’t be so bad if these schools stayed completely closed down and nothing online due to a pandemic; a pandemic that is infecting the kids minds

  8. Elena Skelton


  9. Charmane Kielbasa

    The worlds motto should be, “We are but One Race, The Human Race”.

  10. Cindy M Trimble

    EXCELLENT letter…sums it up nicely!

  11. Kathleen Thompson

    Brilliant and could be written about many schools, not just exclusive ones. It permeates businesses, churches, and other organizations as well. Read and wake up!

  12. Mary

    Bravo!! About time a parent takes a firm stand!!

  13. Rhoda Sears


    It’s time. It’s time that the sound principles of “live & let live” in our society go through a bit of articulation & expression evolution to better fit these disturbing, irrational times we are living in. This isn’t a Republican or a Democrat thing, it’s an American thing! It’s as if much of the social expression of this country is being driven and dictated by an unruly mob-like mentality whose only agenda is American civil unrest and the deconstruction of American civil society, American civil discourse and just plain destruction of American society & civility. It’s as if a tempestuous “I hate you/hate life/hate myself” teenager is ruling the roost and quite frankly that’s never been considered or supported as a good idea!

    When, where & how did this happen?—— my fellow Americans (and specifically 40something and ups)….During OUR watch, RIGHT UNDER OUR NOSES, WE are how. This crap happened under our formotable years & lifetimes, was simmering and infesting under our watch. While we relaxed our parenting styles, tolerated anti-American sentiments in our midst (instead of inviting them to freely choose to leave and find their joy elsewhere) , and financially supported these teaching institutions to do whatever they wanted with our money and our most precious resources…our children’s minds. We got so busy with our professions and left the raising of our children’s consciousness to OTHERS and the framing of our “AMERICANISM” to others and forgot to pass down what we were founded by and for. We patted ourselves on the back whilst we did it, thinking we were being so modern & efficient.

    It’s time. Time to take full responsibility and take back our $$, our children, our dignity and our country! Freedom does NOT mean “your agenda is free to substitute for my or ANY other American’s civility liberties.
    NO. NO Sir. NO Ma’am. NOT NOW. NOT EVER

    • Trent R

      Excellent post, Rhoda. Now let’s go! We need everybody to start fighting back hard against this malignant cultural takeover – people from *all* walks of life and *all* political leanings! And we must begin doing so immediately!